“To ask nothing, to expect nothing, to depend on nothing,” is how American author Ayn Rand described freedom. One of the greatest life aspirations of most children is independent living; free from curfews, scheduled chores and parental supervision.
In a recent study, millennial children (growing up around the turn of the new millennium) are considered a mobile and independent generation. The communication company Harris Corporation reports that 78% of millennials would rather splurge on vacations abroad than on an expensive watch. This love for mobility and intangible goods shows that millennials are aspiring for an independent life.
According to the research firm Euromonitor International, young adults aged 18 to 34 comprise the fastest-growing segment of people living on their own. One reason behind this trend could be that solo-dwelling has become more affordable in recent years. Another contributing factor is the ability to socialize more. Without any commitment at home, an individual is free to meet up with acquaintances and friends whenever they wish.
American writer Denis Waitley once said, “The greatest gifts you can give your children are the roots of responsibility and the wings of independence.” If your adult child is a millennial who has the whole world in front of them, it’s highly recommended that you let him or her start living alone. Here are five compelling reasons why millennials need to be independent:
Encourages Personal Growth
Your child will learn the essence of responsibility once they are on their own. Without anyone else to clean their apartment or pay the bills, it will teach them that there’s no one to depend on except themselves. They’ll learn to pick up, and budget their income and time. An article from DMCI Leasing says if they have a job or a career that can afford them a decent life; they’re ready to rent their own place.
Gives Them Opportunities for Reflection
The demands of modern life and the barrage of accessible information can increase stress and anxiety. Having their own space for reflection where they are not obliged to speak to anyone after a grueling day is good for the mind and body. Researchers at Columbia University suggest that a few minutes of meditation each day boosts one’s ability to focus, and embracing silence help discursive thoughts and emotional control.
Improves Their Social Life
Even millennial generation women are embracing solo living. In fact, according to the Australian Institute of Family Studies, the social advantage is most evident among millennial females. Hollywood has romanticized the single life, and contrary to popular belief, solo living does not necessarily lead to being a loner. In fact, a solitary life can actually boost one’s social life. By living alone, your son or daughter will have more time and confidence to socialize with neighbors, acquaintances and friends.
More Free Time, More “Me” Time
Individuality and curiosity are millennial traits that are enriched by living independently. Solo dwellers are able to spend their free time on a hobby or advocacy, generally improving their lifestyle. Instead of sitting on a couch watching reality shows, young adults are able to reflect on the things that matter to them when they’re alone. There’s no distraction, no curfew to comply with, and a lot of liberty to plan activities.
Produces Self-Actualized Adults
According to American psychologist Abraham Maslow, self-actualization is characterized by when a person attains his four basic needs: physiological, security, belongingness, and self-esteem. Once he has satisfied these, a new discontent and restlessness develop. A millennial that separates themselves from their parents has the opportunity to reach self-actualization. They’ll learn to be realistic, “alone but not lonely,” appreciative and spontaneous.
Letting your adult child move out and live alone is not an easy decision. In fact, many parents dread the day when their children “leave the nest.” Bestselling author Paulo Coelho describes this dilemma perfectly, “Parents rarely let go of their children, so children let go of them. They move on. They move away. The moments that used to define them are covered by moments of their own accomplishments.”
Patricia Evans is a part time interior designer and full-time mother. When she’s not busy balancing her household and career, she writes about lifestyle, travel, architectural trends, fashion, health, gardening, tea, and cooking.